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December 20, 2011

Christmas Forgiveness

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This time last year I was having a conversation with my husband about my family. “You know? Sometimes I think I would be fine if I just cut contact with some of them.” Of course I didn’t mean it, but I was frustrated. Each year I host our family Christmas and each year, it felt like it was becoming less and less important for people to be here. My brother, Larry, in particular was notorious for never letting me know ahead of time if his family would come, making it difficult for me to plan the amount of food we would need.

I mostly got over my fit in time for our family gathering. We had a great time… Just Dance Competitions, rousing games of Apples to Apples and just hanging out. My brother and his family did show up. I was still feeling annoyed with him though, so I don’t really remember hanging out with him much. I hung out with his kids, but I honestly can’t remember having much interaction with him at all that day.

No one in our family was ill last Christmas. Everyone was healthy and there was no reason for me to believe that things would be any different the next time we all got together. Little did I know that in June 2011 my brother would be diagnosed with cancer and two months later, he would die. I had no idea our next family gathering would be his funeral.

What I wouldn’t give to replay last Christmas… to appreciate the family I have for everything they are. To love them unconditionally and to get over my bratty self and to savor their presence, announced or not, at our family gathering.

Think about your family this Christmas. What would you do differently if you knew someone you loved wasn’t going to be there next year? Is there someone you need to forgive and embrace for who they are? The best gift you can give yourself this Christmas is the gift of family, love and forgiveness. Appreciate the people God has placed in your life, for everything they are, because you never know when it may be your last chance to show them your love.

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  1. Aimee @ ShugarySweets says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:13 pm

    What a beautiful, heartfelt, and honest post. It’s so true we take our family for granted! My dad has been very ill and just this past month was put on a transplant list, we all know this may be our last holiday with him. I will cherish every moment and know how lucky I am to have each day, and live with no regrets. Thank you!

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  2. LisaK says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:14 pm

    Thanks for making me think. It’s a fine line between “tough love” and Christlike love. I’m sure your brother understands. Happy Holidays to you and your family.

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  3. Lindsay @ Rosemarried says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:15 pm

    Thank you so much for this post. Your words ring true, and are a great reminder to savor and cherish the ones we love, and to put others above our own selfish tendencies. I needed this message of forgiveness, so thank you!

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  4. Julia says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:16 pm

    Oh Kristen, Im so so sorry! I know this year has been rough. I appreciate your honesty in this post, and your reminder about appreciating what we DO have. Thank you!

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  5. SuperJenn says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:22 pm

    I had a big response written…. but it was more of a blog post…you know me!! 😉

    I hold my family members, those who will not be sharing another Christmas with us…and those most likely experiencing their last, in my heart. Your loss is so fresh, I hope that you can enjoy this holiday with your family….and not let regrets overshadow your joy in them.

    This Christmas I’m also joyful for my “extended family” …this includes you!!
    xxoo

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  6. Lynne says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:26 pm

    Thanks for sharing this. I think I’ll send it to a family member who’s cut herself off from her family for reasons no one understands. There’s a 99 percent chance it will just annoy her and make her even angrier than she is. But I’ll take the 1 percent chance that it will resonate.

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  7. Jane says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:27 pm

    Thank you sooo much for this post, and the reminder to never take family for granted.

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  8. Dana says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:29 pm

    Life is funny that way, isn’t it? It kicks you when you least expect it. But, remembering your brother and the time you shared is the best you can do. Who knew your brother would pass? No one. So, no regrets and forgive yourself. The universe has its reasons for what happens in your life.

    My father’s birthday is the day after Christmas. When he was alive, we never did much because he never wanted us to. After he passed of lung cancer in October 2004, I now take the time to pause and celebrate his birthday. I softly sing Happy Birthday and tell him I love him. It’s the least I can do!

    Happy Holidays!

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  9. Kita says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:31 pm

    This is a beautiful post in all of its sadness. I can’t imagine how hard it is to have the realization of those loved ones not being able to spend any day with you, let alone the holidays – but I appreciate your message – to not take for granted those we have. I lose my mother several years ago and her birthday is a week before Christmas. We never got together before she passed, but now every year on her birthday my uncle and I get together and celebrate for her. Thank you so much for sharing this post with us. I hope you and your family can find joy in past holiday memories while making new ones this year.

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  10. shelly (cookies and cups) says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:31 pm

    This is something we all should remember. Thinking of you and your family this season, sweet friend.

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  11. movita beaucoup says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:36 pm

    Agreed. Whole heartedly and with a wee tear in my eye.

    xox

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  12. susan from food blogga says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:37 pm

    Kristen, This is what Christmas should be about. Thank you for this honest, poignant story. You touched my heart.

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  13. Kathy - Panini Happy says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:40 pm

    So important to remember – thank you, Kristen!

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  14. Amanda @ Once Upon a Recipe says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:41 pm

    I couldn’t agree more Kristen. Wishing you and your family a happy and peaceful Christmas!

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  15. Robyn | Add a Pinch says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:50 pm

    Kristen,
    I’ve been thinking of you a lot as we’ve been preparing for Christmas.

    It’s tough. I’m not going to lie about that. It’s hard to lose someone you love. Some days the grief hits you out of nowhere and other days, you can honestly laugh about funny things they said or did without your heart feeling like it is going to burst.

    Your family has been through so much this year. I’m thinking of you all and praying you have a Merry Christmas.

    Love you, sweet friend!

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  16. Tricia (Once A Month Mom) says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:53 pm

    I wish I could remember this as much in the moment as I do later. It is so hard to break out of that “brattiness” as you refer to it. So sorry for your loss and I will remember this post when I start heading there.

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  17. Kate says

    December 20, 2011 at 2:58 pm

    I’ve had holidays like that; and I still do. I’ve lost a sister, and my mom, and Christmas is such a hard holiday for all of us even though we never talk about it. I know what it’s like to have a hole in your family portrait. I’ve taken more time in the last few years to appreciate what Christmas is really all about. But I can’t make others feel the same way. Still, I’ll treat them with the priority they deserve because I never want to forget what it’s like to lose one of them.

    Have a wonderful Christmas with your family, Kristen.

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  18. HeatherChristo says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:02 pm

    Thank you for sharing this Kristin. Thank you for your honesty, and what an important reminder to us all to cherish our true gifts- the people we love.

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  19. Colleen says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:02 pm

    An honest thought provoking post Kristen. Thank you for sharing what is in your heart. I am sending you a warm hug full of love from Cape Town and wishing you and your loved ones a Blessed Christmas. May the love and peace of the Christ child fill your hearts and homes. Its tough going through what you are and having to cross milestones. Thoughts and prayers are with you xx

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  20. Jeanette says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:14 pm

    Thank you for writing this post, I’m sure it was difficult to put this up. I know I need a reminder, especially this time of year when things are crazy, to try to be more forgiving and patient.

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  21. Staci says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:19 pm

    Thank you, Kristen. Think of all the lives you have blessed today because of your words. Merry Christmas.

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  22. LiztheChef says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:27 pm

    All my family are gone except for my husband, an uncle, a cousin and her daughter. I’d give anything to have my folks, grandparents and best friend around our small table…Life is short – share the love today…My heart goes out to you.

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  23. Pam @ The Meltaways says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:34 pm

    Wow. I could have nearly written this myself, only it happened to be the Christmas of 2007. My brother, Jim, had COPD, caught a cold and died of respiratory failure just 8 days into 2008. Even now, 4 Christmases later, I wish I had talked with him and made 100% sure he knew that despite the previous years of tension that I loved him. Hugs to you and your family.

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  24. Lauren says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:40 pm

    Thanks for the reminder, Kristen! It’s always important to remember what means the most to us, especially around Christmas.

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  25. The Teacher Cooks says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:40 pm

    Kristen, What a post to read. Thanks for reminding me what I should be thankful for.

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  26. Sarah Caron says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:42 pm

    Well put. We just can never know when this time might be the last time. It’s a sentiment we should keep close to our hearts always … my family almost lost someone very recently (thank goodness we didn’t) and it was a huge wake up call. What happens next is really what matters now.

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  27. Michelle Coffey says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:51 pm

    Beautiful Kristen!
    Just had the same “convo” with a friend that is having Christmas sibling drama! It’s hard during the Holidays to keep perspective. You are truly a blessed woman and the sharing of your wisdom is definately helpful to all!

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  28. TidyMom says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:58 pm

    I love you and your honesty Kristen………you know I need to make Steve read this!

    big hugs to you this Christmas!!!

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  29. Cookbook Queen says

    December 20, 2011 at 3:59 pm

    Such a heartbreaking post, and a very true one. This has been quite a year for you and your family, but you are such a kind and strong woman and they’re lucky to have you. None of us are perfect, but you love them and that is what counts. Merry Christmas Kristen!! You’re all in my prayers.

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  30. Melissa Nunes says

    December 20, 2011 at 4:01 pm

    Your post made me think…people can be so MANY things to us. It is just so complicated sometimes to have any kind of a relationship with others. I guess that’s why I have DOGS.

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  31. Maria says

    December 20, 2011 at 4:04 pm

    Thanks for this post. Great reminder. Hugs to you! xoxo

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  32. Katrina @ In Katrina's Kitchen says

    December 20, 2011 at 4:05 pm

    What a sweet and sorrowful reminder. {{hugs}}

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  33. patti says

    December 20, 2011 at 4:05 pm

    Perfect, thank you!

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  34. ciaochowlinda says

    December 20, 2011 at 4:11 pm

    I think about these things a lot, especially since a lot of losses in my family in the last year and a half. You’re so right – we must take every chance we get to be together, to help each other because these chances slip away and never return. I know it will be a tough Christmas for you, but I wish you peace and good health for the holiday season and for next year.

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  35. Kristen M. says

    December 20, 2011 at 4:17 pm

    This post was beautiful and really touched me. Many blessings and well wishes to your family.

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  36. Jessica says

    December 20, 2011 at 4:23 pm

    This was a wonderful post to read especially right here during the holidays. Thanks for the reminder of how we need to love each of our family members.

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  37. Diane Kramp says

    December 20, 2011 at 4:29 pm

    Oh Kristen- so well said- you brought tears to my eyes. I am still si sorry for your loss this year. And I appreciate you posting this- I will make a point to look at my “annoying” family differently this weekend. I have a tendency toward bratty self moments too – not going to do it this year. Bring them on- cant wait to hang out with and enjoy those I have while I have them. We should apply it to friends too. Miss you guys! Have a Merry Christmas and wonderful new year!

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  38. Sara says

    December 20, 2011 at 4:44 pm

    Lovely post Kristen. Thank you.

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  39. Wenderly says

    December 20, 2011 at 5:18 pm

    Beautiful post Kristen. Such true words that we all need to be reminded of. It’s so easy to get caught up in the little things. When we stop and take a step back and look with fresh eyes it’s amazing what you can see. Thanks for the reminder sweet friend. Hugs to you.

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  40. Cynthia says

    December 20, 2011 at 5:20 pm

    Thanks for this gift. It gives us all pause and time to reflect and examine…

    Happy Holidays to you and the family.

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  41. Vanessa @frenchfoodiemom says

    December 20, 2011 at 5:24 pm

    Kristen, I am so sad for your loss and for how difficult facing this first holiday without your brother must be. Thank you for sharing, for being so honest, and for inspiring us to appreciate those around us.

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  42. Renee - Kudos Kitchen says

    December 20, 2011 at 5:30 pm

    I write this with a lump in my throat and tears stinging my eyes. Thank you for sharing this Kristen. We all need to take a moment to reflect on what you’ve said so lovingly. I wish you and your family a very special Christmas. I’m sure your brother will be with you.

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  43. Natalie says

    December 20, 2011 at 5:37 pm

    Simply beautiful. I love your honesty, your kindness, your heart, your compassion, and your huge capacity to love. Hugs, love, and blessings to you this holiday season and always, my sweet friend.

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  44. Hilary says

    December 20, 2011 at 5:54 pm

    oh, sweet Kristen. big hugs to you.

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  45. Pat Wogan says

    December 20, 2011 at 5:56 pm

    Thank you for hosting the family Christmas! The expectations for the holidays are so great and somewhat unrealistic. We all want our families to be like a Norman Rockwell painting. I’ll bet even Norman Rockwell’s family had their little glitches. Families are held together by genes and love…and the hope that this year will be perfect! Even if it isn’t perfect, it will be wonderful! Love to you for reminding us that forgiveness is the real reason for the season! We will miss Larry, but we will have his children to remind us that his legacy goes on! We will miss all those who have gone on before and who are watching from Heaven.(I wonder who Grandma is having write her list of attendees!)

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  46. Aimee @ Simple Bites says

    December 20, 2011 at 6:28 pm

    Thanks for this brave and beautiful reminder, Kristen. I couldn’t agree more. Danny’s grandmother passed away on New Year’s Eve a few years go back, so the holiday’s never come around without us thinking back to that night.

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  47. MikeVFMK says

    December 20, 2011 at 6:55 pm

    Life has a funny way of tapping us on the shoulder and reminding us of what’s important. Sometimes too late. We all wish we could turn back the clock and take back things we say in confidence and in frustration. The fact is we’re human, we make mistakes and we learn from them.

    Happy holidays to you and your family, Kristen! This is the season for family and loved ones.

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  48. April Kofler says

    December 20, 2011 at 7:53 pm

    I read this to my husband. I am so sorry for your loss. Hopefully we will all remember this post when we get upset this year.
    Merry Christmas to you and your family.

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  49. Susan says

    December 20, 2011 at 8:06 pm

    Thank you for reminding all of us how important it is too appreciate our family since we never know how long any of us will be here.

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  50. Laurie says

    December 20, 2011 at 8:06 pm

    So beautifully written and so very true. Thanks for this important reminder as we often get caught up in the little things this time of the year, rather than savoring what the season is really all about. I am thinking of you, my dear friend, and keeping you and your entire family in my prayers at this bittersweet time. It’s been quite a year for all of you and I hope that 2012 brings nothing but happiness your way. I miss you!! XOXO

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  51. Amanda says

    December 20, 2011 at 8:08 pm

    Very important reminder for how to live everyday of our lives. Appreciate you sharing this part of you… this part that must still hurt and ache… you are in our prayers. Much love!

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  52. Erin @ Dinners, Dishes and Desserts says

    December 20, 2011 at 8:24 pm

    What a great post! We all need reminders sometimes. Hugs to you and your family this season!

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  53. Pam @ Antique or Not says

    December 20, 2011 at 8:25 pm

    Thank you so much for the heartfelt reminder of what family is all about. Your post truly touched me; I had tears in my eyes as I was reading it to my husband.

    Hugs,
    Pam

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  54. wendy says

    December 20, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    I needed to hear this message today. Thank you.

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  55. Sonya says

    December 20, 2011 at 8:46 pm

    Wow! What a powerful post. I didn’t attend a family gathering the week before my brother died because I was mad at my mom. I swore from then on I would attend every one whether I felt like it or not. I missed precious time with my brother that I will never get back.

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  56. Angie Matthewson says

    December 20, 2011 at 8:55 pm

    Thank you for sharing this.
    That ceramic tree makes me think of my Grandma. My mom made her one like that over 30 years ago! The sentiment also makes me think of her.
    So sorry for your loss. I’m sure this will be a very difficult Christmas for your family, but I hope there is joy as well.

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  57. Marian (Sweetopia) says

    December 20, 2011 at 9:09 pm

    Sniff.
    Thank you.
    xo

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  58. Kim B. says

    December 20, 2011 at 9:56 pm

    Wow! I’m sure this was very hard for you to write, but know it will make a difference to someone struggling with family or friend issues this Christmas season.

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  59. Pam Kennedy says

    December 20, 2011 at 10:03 pm

    Ya made me cry Kristen as we cherish Bob’s brother, Pat, and his few days left on this earth. May our family embrace, honor and love him for the minutes we do have left this holiday season. And, may you remember the precious memories you have of your brother clear back to your childhood. Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful family. Love you Kristen.

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  60. Krissy says

    December 20, 2011 at 10:03 pm

    Wow, that really touched my heart. Thank you for your post. A much needed message during this Christmas season.

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  61. Laura says

    December 20, 2011 at 10:19 pm

    So well said friend! Life would be so different if we could all just forgive and love each other!

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  62. naomi says

    December 20, 2011 at 10:22 pm

    Amazingly written. Thanks for sharing that perspective … your perspective.

    Merry Christmas, Kristen!

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  63. Jen at The Three Little Piglets says

    December 20, 2011 at 10:43 pm

    Regret is a painful thing to live with. But you are so right about letting go of some of the small things that really don’t mean much in the end. Hugs to you and your family!

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  64. Courtney says

    December 20, 2011 at 11:50 pm

    This is something that’s hard to understand before something tragic happens. I am sorry you and your family had to experience so much this year. I hope and pray that 2012 is healing for you all and this Christmas you remeber the good and also remeber that the should ofs are all forgiven.

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  65. Amy C says

    December 21, 2011 at 12:08 am

    Well said. Thanks for the reminder.

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  66. Stephanie says

    December 21, 2011 at 5:19 am

    Wonderful post. And thanks… I needed that.

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  67. erica says

    December 21, 2011 at 6:00 am

    wow…timely post. thank you.

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  68. Dawn says

    December 21, 2011 at 6:01 am

    This us too true! Sadly my Mom passed away this past March after a 5 year battle with lung cancer. The last Christmas was hard. And I did a lot of tongue biting with a lot of encouragement from my husband. Thankfully I did because I’d give anything to have her back this year!

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  69. Steve @ HPD says

    December 21, 2011 at 6:31 am

    Thanks for yet another touching and thoughtful post. Cheers and happy holidays to you and yours.

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  70. The Husband says

    December 21, 2011 at 7:56 am

    I love you.

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  71. bridget {bake at 350} says

    December 21, 2011 at 8:59 am

    Beautiful post, Kristen. I so wish I could take back all of my snotty teenage years. When my mom died, I regretted that so much. (Which I make sure to tell MY almost-13-year-old now.} 😉

    Wishing you a merry Christmas…full of your happy memories…and lots of new ones.

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  72. Lynn says

    December 21, 2011 at 9:03 am

    Thank you for the beautiful and timely reminder to love unconditionally.

    I hope your Christmas is filled with love and warm memories.

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  73. Deb Maurer says

    December 21, 2011 at 12:31 pm

    Please forgive me. I was concentrating on his immediate family (wife and children) and I did not take into consideration your feelings. I am so sorry for your loss. So sorry I did not say this sooner.

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  74. Petit Elefant says

    December 21, 2011 at 4:22 pm

    Good grief I’m bawling. Beautiful post Kristen.

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  75. Shelby says

    December 21, 2011 at 6:22 pm

    First of all I want to say excellent blog! I had a quick question that I’d like to ask if you don’t mind. I was curious to know how you center yourself and clear your thoughts prior to writing. I have had difficulty clearing my thoughts in getting my ideas out. I truly do take pleasure in writing however it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes are wasted simply just trying to figure out how to begin. Any suggestions or hints? Many thanks!

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    • Kristen says

      December 22, 2011 at 10:22 am

      Hi Shelby –
      Thank you so much for your comment. Have you heard of the book Bird by Bird? I highly recommend it. It helped me and is still helping me to become a better writer! Here is a link:

      http://www.amazon.com/dp/0385480016/ref=as_li_ss_til?tag=culinsnaps-20&camp=0&creative=0&linkCode=as4&creativeASIN=0385480016&adid=000YTSH73HYRTXZG4GDG

      Hope that helps!
      Kristen

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  76. BridgetSoup says

    December 21, 2011 at 9:23 pm

    Thank you for this post. I shared it with my facebook and twitter people because it’s something that we need to think about more. It’s so easy to get caught up in all the goings on. Very well said though, and I’m sorry about your brother.

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    • Kristen says

      December 22, 2011 at 10:23 am

      Thanks for sharing it, Bridget!

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  77. Miri says

    December 21, 2011 at 11:32 pm

    I am on the other side right now – suffering a relapse of a congenital condition which affects digestion – can’t eat and am on nutritional support. Not sure how much time I have because theres no real cure for this rare condition. I have always treasured time with family and friends so have no regrets.
    But am now battling with Dad to stop focusing on my illness and try to spend more time enjoying the time I have now instead of trying to find a solution which doesn’t exist.

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    • Kristen says

      December 22, 2011 at 10:23 am

      Oh Miri… I am so sorry. I hope your dad “hears” you and can focus on you and not your illness. Blessings to you.

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  78. angela@spinachtiger says

    December 22, 2011 at 5:09 pm

    I didn’t expect this post. My best friend lost her brother two days ago. It was a long illness, the same way I lost my brother. We knew and we had to time to prepare and repair anything, but it surely taught me. I’m so sorry for you loss. You seem like a good famly. I came here from your daughter and daddy date post and it was heart warming to see that tradition. Merry Christmas to you.

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  79. Kelsey says

    December 22, 2011 at 8:45 pm

    Good post. Very relevant and true.
    I am thankful that I got to spend some quality time with my step-father-in-law before he passed. We were able to have a family Thanksgiving, and had hoped to have one last Christmas with him, however the Amyloidosis took him from us the morning of the 8th (exactly 2 weeks ago today). Christmas won’t be the same without his wonderful smile and twinkling eyes, his internal joy and peace. However, we do have the happy memories of a Thanksgiving spent focusing on family and love for one another. God bless his soul, and God bless your brother’s soul as well. Christmas won’t be easy, and though I don’t know you, I am very sorry and saddened to hear about your loss.

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  80. Sam says

    December 22, 2011 at 11:02 pm

    That was so stirring in my soul! I have such a hard time during the Holidays, I wish I could be better, this certainly is making me think…Thank you for sharing.

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  81. Jami says

    December 23, 2011 at 11:15 am

    Hi Kristin
    Thank you so much for sharing. This is a powerful message, and I’ve felt a desire to get it out to everyone in my life.
    You can see I quoted you in my blog here.
    http://jamisdelishkitch.blogspot.com/2011/12/merry-christmas-and-happy-holidays.html

    I hope you have a wonderful holiday season with your loved ones and take peace in your heart that your brother is in a better place.

    XOXO JDK

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  82. Elle Hyson says

    December 23, 2011 at 2:14 pm

    Kristen, your moving story brought tears to my eyes and made me appreciate even more what I have. And coincidentally I received a greeting card from a woman who used to be my best friend going back 65 years – she married my favorite cousin and the friendship stood intact. Then in the last five or six years she withdrew and after numerous attempts to communicate with her, I gave up. Now I wonder what to do about the greetings after all this time – there is no way to go back to what we had but I feel I should acknowledge the card, although I strongly believe it was sent by her daughter who lives in the same house with her.
    I want to wish you and yours all the best for the holiday season and for the New Year – may it be a healthy, happy and prosperous one for you. God bless and thanks for your wonderful blog.

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  83. Averie @ Love Veggies and Yoga says

    December 23, 2011 at 2:38 pm

    This is such an incredibly moving post and I’ve been thinking about it for the past couple days since I read it.

    It’s really made me think and ponder; thank you for this gift.

    And I am so very sorry for your loss and having to go through this first holiday season without your brother. I can’t even imagine and I’m so sorry for that.

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  84. Rosa @ FlutterFlutter says

    December 24, 2011 at 12:14 pm

    Wow, that is so sad, and such a blessing to hear that reminder. Have a Merry Christmas Kristen.

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  85. Pam says

    January 4, 2012 at 12:35 pm

    Thank you.

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food  FOOD

My love of how food connects people together runs deep. Explore a decade worth of Dine & Dish recipes, from sweets to savory as well as classic family favorites. Food lovers will want to check this out. Bon Appétit!
Crispy Chickpea Pantry Pasta with Spinach and parmesan cheese

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travel  TRAVEL

"I haven't been everywhere, but it's on my list." I've always had a serious case of wanderlust, and traveling and exploring new places continues to be one of my favorite things. Come explore my favorite places with me!
5 Great Ways to Maximize Your Time at Walt Disney World Parks

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life  LIFE

More than just a food blog, Dine & Dish has always been a place where I've shared what's happening in our life. These life posts tend to be my absolute favorite blog posts. Come get a taste of life as it happens in our house!
broken plant pot on the floor with dirt

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happiness  HAPPINESS

I believe that in order to live a happy life, you have to make happiness happen through implementing simple things that make you happy into every day. Here are a few of the things that bring me happiness - I hope they do you too.

EXPLORE HAPPINESS

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New ink inspired by a quote in my friend @andiemmitchell amazing memoir “It Was Me All Along”. 

I tend to be an all or nothing person and look at long term and get overwhelmed instead of just taking things one day at a time. I’ve said her quote to myself multiple times a day for years. Now I’ll have a permanent reminder. 

The full quote: “Can you do it today? Can you make it through today without bingeing? Just today, and tomorrow we’ll reconsider?”

I need to go back and get a couple missed spots filled in but I love it. Thanks Rob at @irezumitattookc 🎉

#typewriterfonttattoo #tattooinstagram #inspiringtattoos #quotetattoo #gentlereminder #wordstoinspire #wordstoremember #wordstoliveby
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My snow and mountain loving, free spirited, book reading, laugh inducing, amazing friend @mountainmamacooks wrote a cookbook. It’s beautiful and just so perfect! I’m sharing all about it on the blog today and I also gave her Crispy Kahlua French Toast recipe the double dip treatment.

Find the recipe and get a peek into her book over on Dine & Dish! (PS I miss you tons, Kelley!)

#apresallday #frenchtoastrecipe #brunchideas #cookbooks #mountainmama #skiingislife
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Here’s a fun fact I heard on the radio several years ago…October 5th is the most popular day to be born (9 months prior is New Years Eve-ish). 🎉 

Happy birthday to all my many many birthday twins out there! It’s the big 4-8 for me…although this past year as a Covid long hauler I feel like I’ve aged 20 years in the past 1. But things are looking up! I’m excited for the next 365 days of my life. I’m blessed and so thankful to still be here, chugging along.

This picture is from last week when @kellykdoyle and I were visiting colleges in Colorado. If I have any followers with ties to @coloradostateuniversity or @cuboulder I’d love to chat! 

#october5th #birthdaytwins #gardenofthegods #birthdayweek #coloradosprings
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I love being a parent of teens...but I miss the days of parenting kids who loved going to school, who didn't struggle with major anxiety, who loved their bodies, and were confident about how they looked. I miss pre-covid days where lunch wasn't distanced, kids had the opportunity to connect and socialize at school, where mask-wearing wasn't even a topic, let alone one that divides. 

The past 2 years have changed my kids. They have gained so many positive things, but they've also gained a new kind of anxiety that wasn't there before. And I hate it for them. They've seen first hand how long haul covid has changed our family. They've seen the selfishness of others in ways they haven't seen before. They've had to grow up faster, worry about things they shouldn't have to worry about, and learn the hard way how this world can really be. And it hurts my heart for them. 

I have a new senior, sophomore and 6th grader here at home. Missing my sophomore in college a ton. I hope the world is kind to them and they are kind to the world. I want nothing more than for them to be happy and to be surrounded by good people who love and accept them for who they are and who also push them to live a full, rich and happy life. I pray every day for them - and for your kids...and pray that we are all raising a generation of empathetic and kind changemakers.

#loveoneanother❤️ #parentingteens #momofteens #anxietyawareness #backtoschooloutfit #changemakers #parenthood_moments
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These two small business owners had a successful launch day for their new clothing and accessory brand, @impatient.us I’m so proud of my daughter @kellykdoyle & daughter from another mother, @kyleemdunn for making the time and financial commitment to launch their dream brand! They’ve done it all so independently and have navigated starting a small business way better than I could have at 17! Thanks to everyone who sent words of encouragement and showered them with support. It’s means so much! 

Follow their journey at @impatient.us and shop the link in their profile!

#smallbusinesslaunch #clothingbrands #teenentrepreneur #launchday #launchparty #teenbusiness #shopsmallbusinesses #proudmoment
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I was a “houseplant lady” before the pandemic, but I think since the pandemic I get to add the word “crazy” to that title. So. Many. Plants. I’m not mad about it!

This weekend @kctinygreenhouse I picked up this beautiful Monstera Peru as well as a bag of Jeff’s Jungle Mix. You know when a new to you potting mix has you super excited, you’ve crossed the line into la la land 😂 Swipe to see how pretty it is!

What pandemic hobby did you pick up?

#plantmomlife #crazyplantpeople #houseplantlove #monsteraperu #pottingmix #plantobsession #plantcollectors #plantsmakepeoplehappy
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Yesterday we spent a few hours down in the West Bottoms visiting the grand opening of @kctinygreenhouse newest location . KC Plant fam, head there. Just trust me! Plants loved and cared for with the best good vibes, all ready to join your crazy plant person home. You’ll find goodies from local KC artisans as well, like @pigeoncandles 

Come for the plants, leave with a heart full of happy!

#westbottoms #tinygreenhouse #plantfamily #pandemicprojects #shoplocalkc #happyplants #plantvibes #summerofyes
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Last night in the suite @kcroyals ...I almost cried. Man it feels so good to be doing normal things. I’ll never take this for granted! Making this the summer of yes...I’m going to say yes to as many events/outings/opportunities as possible! Who’s in? #summerofyes
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Ella is 15 today! Those of you who have been with Dine & Dish since the very beginning have been a part of Ella’s life since the start too! 15 years sure does go by in a flash, both with businesses and babies.
Happy birthday @ella.r.doyle 💕💕💕 We love you!
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I want to live in the big city, yet also want to live in the country. I want to live by the beach, yet also want to live in the mountains. I either need multiple lives or multiple homes! 

#farmlifeisthebestlife #chickensofig #barnlife #iwantitall #hensofinstagram #citygirlcountrygirl
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I’m officially one step closer to reaching peak plant lady status! 🪴

I’m welcoming these plant cuttings from the Hello Kathy Plant Etsy Shop to my already booming collection. When I saw people rave about her “Mystery Box” of plant cuttings I knew I had to buy one. 2 things I love...mystery boxes and plants!

Now I need to figure out how to keep them alive. Any advice? 😃 🪴

#plantladyisthenewcatlady #plantladylife #plantcuttings #newplants #etsyshopping #shopsmallbusinesses #plantloversofinstagram
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Hi, friend! I Thought I’d just say “hey” and check in and add some pretty flowers to your feed.

We’re over here dragging ourselves across the school finish line...so close to done physically, but over done, mentally. Can you relate?

My coaching business is going great, I’m working with some truly incredible, inspiring women right now which makes me so happy! I’ll be launching 2 new group coaching  classes (for women and entrepreneurs) in a few weeks so be sure to follow @rockyourhappy if you are interested in being updated on those!

Jacob comes home from college this week and my parents are coming to visit for a couple of weeks as well. And it’s almost my favorite time of the year, summer!! 

How are things going with you? What’s going good and making you happy? Or what do you need a hand or listening ear with? Touch base! I’ve missed you!

#pinkflowers🌸 #happyday💕 #touchingbase #spreadhappiness #thursdaytherapy #lifecoachforwomen #springflowersmakemehappy
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Book Lovers Giveaway (read to the end)!!! ⬇️ ⬇️ 

Supporting my local independent bookstore @rainydaybooks looks a lot different than it used to these days. Temporarily gone are the days of lingering in store, browsing the shelves, walking out with an armful of books I didn’t expect to buy. The pandemic has made independent bookstores pivot in ways they’ve never had to before, but I’m so happy to say they are CRUSHING IT! And as we virtually celebrate Independent Bookstore Day on 4/24, I wanted to share a way you too can help keep Independent bookstores afloat now (and in the future).

You know I’m a huge fan of @librofm , the absolute best audiobook alternative that gives money back to the independent bookstore of your choice with your audiobook purchases. Well, to celebrate Independent Bookstore Day on 4/24, they are giving YOU a free audiobook! Here’s what you need to do…

Spend $15 or more at your bookstore between April 24th and 26th. Submit your receipt at libro.fm/ibd and Libro.fm will email you a link to your free audiobook by April 28th! Easy peasy, right?

Wait! There’s more! 🌟 I’d love to give one Dine & Dish follower the chance to win a 3 month @Librofm audiobook membership. To enter, simply tag your favorite independent bookstore here and tell me what you love the most about it! That’s it! Winner will be chosen at random on April 27th. Yay, books!

#indiebookstoreday #indiebookstore #bookstoreshoutout 
#booksbooksandmorebooks #bookgiveaway #audiobook #librofm #independentbookstore @indiebookstoreday
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Can’t believe we’re doing the college tour thing already with my second baby! 

So question for any of you who sent your kids to out of state schools or went to out of state schools...how did you do it? She wants to get the heck out of Kansas (I’d like to go with her!). We have money saved, she’ll most likely get a scholarship or two, she’s paying and has money saved as well...but even with that out of state tuition is a beast of an amount. So, did you just assume that student loans were going to be part of that life? And is that worth it to give your kids a shot at a new life outside of your home state? I wish I would have left Kansas for university, and have been here since I was born 😩. I want different for her if that’s what she wants but also just don’t have any experience with how people do out of state college! Any tips?

#collegetour #bestlifenow #outofstate #studentloans #junioryear #kansasstate #adviceneeded
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J is for...jam!
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My friend @wakschmale makes the best strawberry jam...and I completely forgot about a jar she gave me last year until this morning. Which then inspired me to make my favorite buttermilk biscuits. So so good. Are you a jam, honey, just butter or plain biscuit fan? I love biscuits allll the ways, except with gravy. I have super bad memories of biscuits and gravy growing up. 🤢
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I’m still slowly making my way through the alphabet for @kimklassen_innercircle a-z photo challenge. I’m bound and determined to finish. It may just take me a little longer than I originally anticipated 🤗.
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#homemadejam #eatcaptureshare #biscuitsandjam #homemadebiscuits #sundaybaking #easylikesundaymorning #foodphotograph #foodpics #slowsunday #breakfastathome #kimklassen_innercircle
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It took me 2 months to get this Crispy Chickpea Pantry Pasta recipe up on the blog. 🤦‍♀️But it’s there now! You can find the link in my Instagram profile.
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Also, just noticed Instagram took away the like count on posts. I kind of like that...what do you think?
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#pastarecipe #chickpeapasta #dinnerideas #dinnerrecipes #vegetarianrecipe #eatcaptureshare #slowblogging  #totallifechanges
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I is for Inspiration!
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The “long haul” effects of having Covid back in December are really presenting themselves lately. The continuous persistent headaches are taking a toll and the connection between the brain fog and word retrieval function of my brain has been extra challenging. I had no idea a couple months out, the cognitive effects would still be hanging around.
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With that said, when I get a burst of inspiration I’m grabbing on for dear life. I made our favorite chocolate chip cookies recipe yesterday and felt the desire to update the blog post photos from 2007! We make these cookies all the time, so I’m not sure why it’s taken me so many years to give that poor post some new photos.
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If you’re interested in the recipe you can find the link currently in my profile. Enjoy!!
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@kimklassen_innercircle #kimklassen_innercircle #chocolatechipcookie #cookiestagram #foodphotography #feedfeedbaking #plateofcookies #cookiephotography #eatcaptureshare #recipeoftheweek
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H is for...high!
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It was so strange being on a plane again. I’m so thankful I have the antibodies because the flights were full, which seemed wrong, but everyone around me did seem to keep their masks on, so that was good.
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I can’t wait until travel becomes a regular part of life again. I’ve missed it so much!
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 @kimklassen_innercircle @southwestair @windowswap #cloudphotography #cloudsofinstagram #flightview #iflyswa #imisstravelling #skylove #planepics #myviewtoday #beautifulviews
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G is for...oh so grateful!

I flew to South Texas yesterday to visit my parents whom I haven’t seen in 2 years. They live around 17 hours away from us. We typical get to see each other a few times a year but with the pandemic and other health issues it just wasn’t able to happen and I’ve missed them soooo much.

Grateful to have had COVID last month. Although it was not at all fun, it gave me the antibodies to make this trip possible. My dad is having surgery tomorrow so I’m helping with my mom so my dad can recover without having to worry about her.

Kansas is enjoying frigid temperatures and snow. I picked a great week to head south.
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#palmtrees🌴 #palmtreesfordays #blueskiesandsunshine #wintersun #texasskies #kimklassen_innercircle @kimklassen_innercircle #silverlining
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F is for...food photography.
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This time of year especially, food photography (and I guess all photography actually) is a tug of war with time and light. I had planned on making and photographing a delicious pasta recipe, but my grocery delivery ran a couple of hours late because of snowstorm. So, at the eleventh hour I decided to make a cake...that took over an hour to bake and I had about 90 minutes of natural light left...leaving me with about 30 minutes of ok light to work with.
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Anyway, this wouldn't work for a client shoot because the cake, although delicious, didn't turn out looking so great. But it will work great for today's F photo for the @kimklassen_innercircle A-Z photo project:) Lemon Citrus Yogurt Cake from this weeks @cabotcheese newsletter. So good!
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#eatcake #eatcaptureshare #eatcakebehappy #lemoncake #cakecakecakecake #foodiegram #yahoofood #dessertsofinstagram #sweettooth #kimklassen_innercircle #fisforfood
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