I know I have mentioned this before, but my seven year old is a great kid. He is extremely well behaved at school, he is a nice friend, and he has such a kind heart. There is one thing about Jacob that does not fit his normal personality, and that is that once every 1 to 2 weeks, Jacob has a major emotional breakdown at home. Usually he is set off by something small but his reaction to whatever set him off is off the charts. He cries uncontrollably, screams, and reacts in a manner that is completely unlike him. These meltdowns will last for quite a long time once they start, sometimes up to an hour, and we are typically unsuccessful at getting him to calm down.
Tonight was Jacob’s meltdown night. He wanted to take a bath instead of a shower and completely lost it when my husband said that he had to take a shower. He lost it with a capital L, in a extreme way. He screamed and he cried and like always, nothing we tried would calm him down.
As you can imagine, when Jacob gets this way, my husband and I are on the verge of losing it ourselves. As the crying gets louder, our nerves get more and more shot. Typically we just leave him alone in his room and let him calm down on his own. Tonight, though, I decided to try something that I learned from Grey’s Anatomy, of all places. Did any of you catch the episode towards the beginning of the season where Dr Yang and Dr Bailey were instructed by Dr Dixon (the character with Aspergers) to hug from the side to her to help calm her nervous system down? Apparently it is related to a technique called “Brushing” and it is supposed to work at making people calm. (You can watch the hugging scene from Grey’s Anatomy on YouTube here).
I walked in by Jacob in the heat of his meltdown, got down on my knees and held him from the side tightly. I spoke softly to him and within two minutes at the most, Jacob’s breathing was back to normal, his tears had stopped and he was calm. Just like that, his major meltdown ceased and he became completely cooperative again. Another benefit of this is that it calmed me down too! I tuned out his crying and just concentrated on keeping my voice soft and calming him down. I almost cannot wait for him to have another meltdown just to see if this technique works again!
It is amazing to me how the simple act of touch can work to completely change someone elses behavior. That feeling of comfort… of having someone hold you to soothe you is indeed remarkable.
The soup we had tonight did not calm Jacob down (it may have if I would have served it during the meltdown), but to me, a cup of soup is like a hug in a bowl. There is something about sitting down to the warm steam rising off the bowl, taking your first bite and having your whole body warmed by the contents that provides immediate comfort. This may not be the kind of hug that works to eliminate meltdowns, but you may want to be careful… running out of this soup may result in the kind of meltdown’s from your family that will require you to provide physical hugs for comfort. It is that good!
Broccoli and Chicken Noodle Soup
Ingredients
- Cooking spray
- 2 cups chopped onion
- 1 cup presliced mushrooms
- 1 garlic clove minced
- 3 tablespoons butter
- 1.1 ounces all-purpose flour about 1/4 cup
- 4 cups 1% low-fat milk
- 1 14-ounce can fat-free, less-sodium chicken broth
- 4 ounces uncooked vermicelli broken into 2-inch pieces
- 2 cups 8 ounces shredded light processed cheese (such as Velveeta Light)
- 4 cups 1-inch cubed cooked chicken breast
- 3 cups small broccoli florets 8 ounces
- 1 cup half-and-half
- 1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
- 3/4 teaspoon salt
Instructions
- Heat a Dutch oven over medium-high heat. Coat pan with cooking spray. Add onion, mushrooms, and garlic to pan; sauté 5 minutes or until liquid evaporates, stirring occasionally.
- Reduce heat to medium; add butter to mushroom mixture, stirring until butter melts. Sprinkle mushroom mixture with flour; cook 2 minutes, stirring occasionally.
- Gradually add milk and broth, stirring constantly with a whisk; bring to a boil.
- Reduce heat to medium-low; cook 10 minutes or until slightly thick, stirring constantly. Add pasta to pan; cook 10 minutes. Add cheese to pan, and stir until cheese melts. Add chicken and remaining ingredients to pan; cook 5 minutes or until broccoli is tender and soup is thoroughly heated.
- Yield: 10 servings (serving size: 1 cup)
CALORIES 317 ; FAT 12.3g (sat 6.8g,mono 2.9g,poly 0.9g); CHOLESTEROL 74mg; CALCIUM 179mg; CARBOHYDRATE 23.8g; SODIUM 723mg; PROTEIN 27.5g; FIBER 1.9g; IRON 1.6mg
The soup looks awesome!
As for the meltdowns – Katie, my 7 year-old ASD child has been losing it lately, too – very badly. I was just brushing her arms tonight (don’t have the brush yet, I used my hands) to calm her down and it worked like a charm. It was like watching a dog chill out when you stroke his nose or roll over if you stroke his belly. Very funny. It took her SO long to get to bed, though. I completely understand!
“A hug in a bowl” I love that! Your soup does look like a big, comfortable hug. That photo is great.
My 6 yr-old nephews are both on the autism spectrum and the brushing technique and side hugs really help them when they can’t calm down.
Your Jacob sounds like a very sensitive little guy. My daughter was like that too. I believe that they’re the ones who grow up to be the most caring and nurturing adults.
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Raising children is certainly the hardest job in the world! Trying to figure out how to treat them at times like this is difficult, to say the least. I hope the hugs continue to instill calmness in you and your sons life.
And I agree, a bowl of soup is like a warm, comforting hug! And this soup sounds delicious!
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oh that looks SO delish! do you mind if i add you to my blogspot? i love the photos 🙂
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That’s pretty incredible…way to be a resourceful parent! Jacob’s lucky to have your hugs and your soup 🙂
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Forget the soup, I like the hug! I need to try this more often with my tantrum-child. I forget to do this, but when I have it has helped so much. Great post! You’re so wise! And I saw that Grey’s too…good one.
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Oh my heart goes out to you, especially with the new little one coming!The hug is an excellent idea! Great soup recipe, I want some!
BTW- I’ve never seen Grey’s Anatomy. Am I a freak or what?!
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Lovely mom you are! But you must tell me if this wonderful Hug Therapy works when he is an adolescent (that’s what I am living through!) 🙂
Soup as Hug in a Bowl is also a beautiful thought and this soup seems like just the perfect hug!
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Hm, if having a meltdown is what it takes to get some of this soup I might try it 🙂
Cute tip from Grey’s Anatomy…who says that TV isnt educational anyway!?
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There is something poetic about “a hug in a bowl”. Classic!!! Lovely pictures!!!
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Incredible that you learned this from Grey’s anatomy!! See now I have to tell my guy that it’s not such a bad show after all..lol. Great that it worked! I saw your fabulous photo of this soup on foodgawker and am glad that I popped in! Looks incredible and this soup is definitely going to be one I need to try!
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Soup like this is a warm hug!
Wisdom or tricks that work can come from very unlikely sources, this was one 😉 What a delight.
Wow! That was a very beautiful post – how smart of you to try that technique. I have a 5 year old who sometimes melts down for no reason – I gotta try this!
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That picture is gorgeous. Makes me want to wipe my finger across all of those drips! It sounds fantastic.
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I get all warm & fuzzy simply by looking at your photo! I’ll have to try this hug technique on my stressed out man 🙂
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Love soups, this is so comfy food.
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Love how you’ve written this. Everything sounds (and looks) like comfort.
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I love this picture-how the soup drips on the mug!
I loved that scene in Grey’s Anatomy! I don’t have any kids, but I think that was a brilliant way to react.
See? TV does help real life.
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Soup as a “hug in a bowl” 🙂 You are a fabulous writer and an excellent mother! WOW!
So very cool! I am torn between complete amusement that you might be excited for him to have another meltdown to totally wishing he would myself so I could hear if it does work. Note to self: hug the kids from the side. 🙂
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This was so interesting, I have a co worker that I’m going to relate this information to,she babysits here grandson and this happens to him as well. Thank you for the information. The soup sounds so good and I will be making this soon!
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I have taste it before and I do like it very much.
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That soup sounds delicious. I have a couple of kids who seriously melt down and the hugging never worked. Maybe I didn’t do it correctly from the side though.
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I did see that episode, funny! I guess tv isn’t all bad (he, he). Way to be resourceful and try something new with an old problem. Good to know it works too – will keep in mind for future! What kid doesnt have melt-downs?! Those wont be the fun days – but good with the bad, and all that… 🙂
your soup looks really heart-warming!
parenting is the hardest job in the world. i’m still learning. reading your pieces is definitely helpful.
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I love how the soup is dripping down the sides. It looks fantastic!
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Wow, I guess TV docs can actually teach you something! At the very least, hugging him tightly reminds him that you love him and that’s got to be comforting. You’re such a great mom as well as a great cook 🙂
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Looks delicious. I love seeing the soup oozing out of the bowl. Yum…
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awesome, I have my issue sitting right here and was thinking of making this. glad you liked it, it sounded really yummy to me as well!
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