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October 30, 2015

Remembering a Friend {Boozy Chocolate Milkshake Recipe}

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This Boozy Chocolate Milkshake Recipe is so creamy and delicious… you won’t believe what my secret ingredient is!

Boozy Chocolate Milkshake Recipe

I’m not good at this… the whole dealing with the loss of a friend thing. I’m just not. I tend to avoid life and immerse myself in everything but confronting the fact that a friend has died.

This past week, the blogging community has rallied together to remember a dear friend of ours, Joan Hayes. Joan was the southern voice and tremendous talent behind the blog Chocolate, Chocolate and More. Last Thursday evening, word began to circulate that Joan had been complaining of a stomach ache, laid down on her couch and simply never woke up. It seemed inconceivable to me that my vivacious and full of life friend could just be gone. I had chatted with her just a few days prior and she was her normal, cheerful, joking self.

Joan Hayes of Chocolate Chocolate and More

photo courtesy of Shanna Schad

It turns out that Joan had suffered a heart attack. Friends, if you don’t click on any links in this post but one, make it be this. The signs of a heart attack in women are so much different than they are in men. Please read this to educate yourself so hopefully you’ll be aware of the signs of a heart attack if the situation arises. Boozy Chocolate Milkshake Recipe

Joan and I were online friends who never met…and I have deep regrets about that. Earlier this year we were supposed to be on the same cruise and I had to cancel. Then this summer, my family vacationed on Tybee Island in Georgia. Joan is from Georgia and we had sent texts back and forth about meeting up on our way home as we passed through Atlanta. With a 17 hour car ride ahead of us, and 4 kids who were pretty much ready to be home, our meet up never happened. Then, earlier this fall my friend Mary invited me to a small retreat at her home that Joan was attending. It ended up being at the same timeframe my husband was running the Chicago marathon, so I wasn’t able to go.

I wish I would have made time to actually meet Joan in person. One thing I’ve learned from this loss is online friendships, and I’m blessed to have so many, are a wonderful thing. I have a deep connection with so many people I have never met. I’m thankful to the internet for the blessings of friends all around the world. However, nothing, and I mean NOTHING, can take the place of connecting with someone in person. Friends, please take a lesson from my regrets…if the opportunity arises to meet a friend in person, do it. Go to coffee, meet for lunch, heck…stop at a gas station for a quick hug if you have to on the way through town. Just do it!

Quote from Joan Hayes

I’d love for you all to get to know the Joan we all knew a little better (although she was an extremely gifted blogger…I am sure most of you knew her already!). Mary has pulled together all the tribute links we’ve written for Joan. You’ll find chocolate recipes galore, and heartfelt words about our friend. Please visit Mary’s blog to check that out.

Also, for chocolate recipes and more sweet treats, please continue to use Joan’s blog as a resource. She’s sadly left behind 3 children, and our hope is to keep her blog alive for her children.

Now, to honor Joan, I am sharing a delicious, chocolate and booze filled milkshake recipe with my secret ingredient for added creaminess…instant pudding! Enjoy!

Boozy Chocolate Milkshake Recipe
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Boozy Chocolate Milkshake Recipe

A boozy chocolate milkshake with a secret ingredient that makes the creamiest shakes around!
Course Dessert
Prep Time 5 minutes
Total Time 5 minutes
Servings 2 milkshakes
Author Dine & Dish

Ingredients

  • 1 1/2 cups vanilla ice cream
  • 1/2 cup whole chocolate milk from the carton
  • 2 Tablespoons chocolate instant pudding mix I used Devils Food
  • 2-4 ounces Brandy liquor
  • Whipped Cream chocolate syrup and chocolate chips for garnish

Instructions

  1. Place the ice cream, milk, pudding mix, and brandy into a blender and blend until smooth.
  2. Pour into tall glasses and garnish with whipped cream, chocolate syrup and chocolate chips if desired!

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Filed Under: Beverages, Blogging, Dessert, Previous Tagged With: chocolate, Dessert, food, friendship, ice cream, joan hayes, milkshake, milkshake recipe, recipe

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  1. Mary Younkin says

    October 30, 2015 at 5:09 pm

    I’m crying all the tears all over again, Kristen. I wish you could have met her as well, but a real life hug, or an online bond, they are both every bit as strong. My world is better for knowing you and I know that Joan felt the same way. I love you, my friend.

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    • Kristen says

      October 30, 2015 at 5:13 pm

      So many regrets…let’s meet soon, ok? Love you!

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  2. Lynne @ 365 Days of Baking and More says

    October 30, 2015 at 5:18 pm

    Kristen, what a beautiful post. Joan had always spoken very highly of you and so looked forward to meeting you one day.
    These online friendships are pretty amazing and the support we’ve all shared this week is even more so.
    I so look forward to having that chance to meet you in person and I certainly hope it’s soon!
    Hugs!

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  3. Liz @ Floating Kitchen says

    October 30, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    What a beautiful post, Kristen. Joan was a true gem. I’m so glad that we can honor her and continue to spread her love of chocolate with the world. Sending you hugs. I’m so thankful we are friends. XO.

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    • Linda C says

      October 10, 2016 at 2:38 am

      I’m so very sorry for the loss of your friend Joan and send condolences both ro you and to her family.

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      • Kristen says

        October 11, 2016 at 12:30 pm

        Thank you so much!

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  4. Shanna @ pineapple and coconut says

    October 30, 2015 at 6:20 pm

    I am so glad I was able to take time out of my day and schedule to meet you when you came to town!! I can’t always do that, I have had so many friends come here and I haven’t been able to get away to see them. But I am SO glad I was able to do so. Joan was amazing. I love that so many are sharing my picture of her. She really is missed and you would have absolutely loved her. Great post in her honor

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  5. Kayle (The Cooking Actress) says

    October 30, 2015 at 6:56 pm

    This post was so beautiful. I, unfortunately, also never had the opportunity to meet Joan in person and I am so saddened that I didn’t make it happen when I could have. She had the most amazing spirit and I know we’ll all miss her terribly <3

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  6. Miss @ Miss in the Kitchen says

    October 30, 2015 at 7:20 pm

    I never got to meet Joan but she was one of the most generous and kind friends online. I am so grateful to have met you and hope that we get to spend more time together! This milkshake is the perfect tribute to our sweet friend.

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  7. Lisa @ Wine & Glue says

    October 30, 2015 at 8:36 pm

    Kristen . . . I know that this won’t help, but I really believe with all my heart that Joan wouldn’t want you to be full of regret. Whether or not you met in person, you knew Joan. I keep calling Joan this Mama Bear of the blogging community and I think that makes you it’s wise advisor. So kind to everyone, such a sweet peacekeeper. You and Joan were birds of a feather. It doesn’t matter that you didn’t meet her in person.

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  8. Katrina says

    October 30, 2015 at 10:51 pm

    Love this post. There are so many bloggers I’d love to meet someday and it’s pretty amazing to have met some and made real friends for life. I did not know Joan at all, but loved her yummy blog (who wouldn’t/didn’t?) We need to meet next time I’m in KS. Such a hard thing, when people pass on so early.

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  9. Liz @ The Lemon Bowl says

    October 31, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    Oh Kristen… you have always been so good with words. I keep thinking about the fact that I was just weeks away from meeting Joan for the first time in Chicago. It really makes me sick to my stomach. I am so glad to have the blogging community to mourn together over this deep loss.

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  10. Linda J says

    October 31, 2015 at 3:27 pm

    Although I am not a blogger, I can attest that all of us followers build these relationships with you all. I followed Joan and enjoyed her so much. I recently lost a close friend to leukemia and the sadness is felt very deeply. My condolences to you all and her family.

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  11. Kari says

    October 31, 2015 at 6:30 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss!
    Kari
    http://www.sweetteasweetie.com

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  12. Kat says

    October 31, 2015 at 9:05 pm

    I am so saddened by Joan’s passing. I did not know her personally but I use her blog for recipes every week. I just made her chocolate ice cream with chips yesterday. All the children and adults in my family beg for me to make this.
    Thank you Joan, you will always be remembered in my family and in our hearts for countless hours of joy.

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  13. Les in NE says

    November 1, 2015 at 12:05 pm

    I have several online friends that I keep promising myself to visit “someday.” This post is not only a great reminder about serious health issues, but one that gently nudges me to take the time to visit those online buddies, as well as my “real life” friends. Life is short…

    Sending warm thoughts your way, Kristen. xo

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  14. Michelle Rittler @ Taste As You Go says

    November 1, 2015 at 10:13 pm

    I’ve been reading tribute after tribute about Joan, and I honestly wish I had the opportunity to get to know her better, outside of her blog. Of course, reading your post makes me think of my own list of online friends that I want to meet in real life — including you! Please… let’s try to make that happen as soon as possible. <3

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  15. Emma @ Best Juicer Choice says

    November 2, 2015 at 10:48 pm

    This sounds absolutely amazing!! Here in North-Italy it’s really cold and windy so I’ll definitely try this!

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  16. Brianne @ Cupcakes & Kale Chips says

    November 3, 2015 at 10:44 am

    A beautiful tribute! I’ve had a hard time putting myself out there since I moved, but one reason I admire you is the way you try to make personal connections and encourage others to do the same. I’m blessed I got to meet Joan, but I wish we had been able to spend more time together.

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  17. Cathy Pollak ~ Noble Pig says

    November 3, 2015 at 8:00 pm

    All these words are so true. I’m so thankful I got to spend so much time with her, which is crazy since we are on separate coasts! It just somehow worked out that way for us. This was a beautiful tribute. Hugs.

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  18. Beverley says

    November 4, 2015 at 11:48 pm

    What a beautiful tribute for a wonderful lady. G-d B ess you all lovely ladies and yes, if you ever get the chance to spend time together just do it. love you all from England and Kristen your recipe is perfect xoxo

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  19. Laura says

    February 9, 2016 at 4:17 pm

    First off, so sorry to hear about your friend.

    Secondly, I can’t wait to try this after lent, alcohol was one of the things I have given up and I am slowly starting to regret it now! JK!

    I can swap the liquor out with coffee to make it more of a mocha flavor and add some zing to it.

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