• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer
  • Home
  • Blog
  • About
  • Contact
  • The Reading Nook
  • The Happy Place
  • Recipe Index

Dine and Dish

Food blog with family recipes

January 16, 2013

Parenting is Hard {Recipe: Creamy Chicken & Corn Chowder}

  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • Yummly
Jump to Recipe -

Creamy Chicken and Corn Chowder from www.dineanddish.net

I leaned over her bed, late at night, placing a gentle kiss on her cheek. As I did, one of my tears fell onto her face, falling down into her wild and curly hair.

I love this girl so, so much I feel my heart physically swelling at the sight of her, but I don’t get her and I don’t know how to get her.

She could easily be described as sweet and kind… but that sweet demeanor can turn on a dime. One moment happy, cuddly and cheerful… the next in a fit of emotion about something small, like the taste of her toothpaste. Even if it the culprit of the fit seems trivial, her pain over it is obvious. She feels so deeply, so loudly, every emotion she has. Whether happy or sad, she feels in extremes.

She’s the one who has challenged me for at least four of her six years now. She’s creative, kind, loving, hilarious, talented and more… but we are slowly understanding that she needs more help than what we can give her. Parenting is hard. And honestly, it’s not going as I imagined it would so many years ago when my husband and I shared dreams about our future family. Never in a million years would I have thought we’d have a child who not only tries so hard but despite that is well below the average benchmark in school. Throw in extreme emotional issues (although that doesn’t present itself at school, ever) and you’ve got a picture perfect family shattered by reality. There is no picture perfect…it doesn’t exist.

And I can’t help but look at myself and wonder… what did I do wrong? I feel as if I’ve failed her in some way… and that’s a horrible feeling.

At the prompt of a friend, I made an appointment for my daughter with a child psychologist. Plus, she’ll be getting additional help at school.

I need answers. I need to know how I can help her. I need to make sure this path she’s spiraling down changes directions. I need help as much as she does… I need to know how to parent a child who doesn’t fit the mold. I’m hopeful yet feel so very helpless. Our appointment is not until May… what do I do until then?

I had been meaning to write about chowder today. About how on a cold day like today, a bowl of this hearty and flavorful chowder can wrap you in temporary comfort. When my mind is wild and my thoughts are far from being able to wax poetically about a pot of chowder, I know I can at least find some comfort in knowing that things will get better. And a bowl of comfort is a great way to start.

A bowl of creamy chicken and corn chowder from Dine & Dish

Creamy Chicken and Corn Chowder from www.dineanddish.net
Print Pin

Creamy Chicken & Corn Chowder

A hearty chowder of corn and chicken...a bowl full of comfort on a cold winter day.

Ingredients

  • 1 cup reduced sodium chicken broth
  • 5 bacon strips diced
  • 1 red bell pepper coarsely chopped
  • 1/2 cup chopped onion
  • 1/4 cup all-purpose flour
  • 3 cups milk
  • 1 teaspoon Tabasco sauce
  • 2 cups frozen whole kernel corn
  • 1 cup cooked chicken breast cut into bite sized pieces
  • 1/2 teaspoon Kosher salt
  • 1 teaspoon Basil (I use and recommend Gourmet Garden
  • 1 Tablespoon minced garlic (I use and recommend Gourmet Garden

Instructions

  • In a large Dutch Oven, fry bacon over medium heat for 5 minutes. Next add bell pepper and onion. Cook until onion is translucent and the vegetables are tender.
  • Add flour; cook and stir until smooth. Slowly stir in milk, Tabasco sauce and chicken broth. Bring to a boil; then cook until thickened, about 3 minutes.
  • Add chicken, corn, seasonings and herbs. Stir until well incorporated and cook for 10 minutes or until heated through.

 

  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • Yummly

Filed Under: Parenting, Previous, soup Tagged With: chicken, chowder, comfort food, corn, Dinner, food, menu plan, parenting, recipe, soup

Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. Heather @ Heather's Dish says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:09 pm

    While I can’t imagine how you feel right now, I know this much based on your words: you love your daughter. That is the best place to start – wherever the journey leads – the best place to start is with love.

    I’ll be praying for you and your beautiful girl hon!

    Reply
  2. Terri says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:18 pm

    Kristen, I remember those types of feelings very clearly. While the behaviors we were dealing with were different than yours, I know how scary and confusing it all is. The waiting and not knowing is awful, but hopefully you will get some answers and even though the answers may bring a whole new set of questions, I hope you will find peace in having those answers. Prayer and faith were the main things that helped me during the waiting. My prayers are with your family. Above all, let yourself off the hook; you did nothing wrong and I know you have and will continue to do everything you can to help her. You are so brave to share this with all your readers!

    Reply
  3. patsy says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:19 pm

    Yes, parenting is hard and we’ve had our own struggles in trying to figure out what one of our kids needs. One has such an easy time of everything in school and the other needs extra help and understanding when working with him.
    I wish you luck in getting the answers you need and making a plan to help your daughter get through this rough time. You will all get there, and you are already working toward that. In the meantime, perhaps the school counselor can offer some guidance?

    Reply
  4. Aviva Goldfarb says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:21 pm

    Kristen, so brave of you to share your parenting struggles like that. I know this is such a hard phase but sometimes your most challenging child is also your most rewarding. I sure hope things get easier soon, though.

    Reply
  5. Kim Foster says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:24 pm

    Hey girl, just popped over from Facebook.

    I wanted to tell you how brave and beautiful this post is. It’s easy for all of us to post adorable, properly filtered pics of our kids and never discuss the real work of the family.

    You are doing that. And that’s why you’re girl is so lucky. Not because she has a mother who gets her completely, but because she has a mother who is willing to do anything to meet her daughter, right where she is.

    That is beautiful. I’ve said this before about your photos, but Im saying it again. Your family is beautiful.

    Will be thinking of you.

    Kim xoxo

    Reply
  6. Sonya says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:26 pm

    Hugs! Parenting is hard but its good you are seeking help and thank you for being honest about it! All too many times moms think they need to hide stuff like this because we don’t view ourselves as perfect moms. Keep us posted on what you find out!

    Reply
  7. Christy says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:29 pm

    I have a wonderful six year old girl and we are struggling with some of the same issues. She has been seeing someone for a few months and it has really help. Stay strong!!! And I can’t wait to try the chowder.

    Reply
  8. Christy says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:31 pm

    That should be helped, not help. I couldn’t figure out how to go back and edit.

    Reply
  9. Denise says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:40 pm

    I am not a parent, and probably should not voice my thoughts, but I am going too. I, agree with you parenting is hard – it is the one profession that I feel is over looked. I cannot imagine being a parent, though if I could, I would embrace the job with open arms. You are managing little people, who are just learning how to be “big” people. The only thing they really know how to do right is to love their parents, unconditionally. I can only imagine the frustration you feel, not being able to help her, but you have to know in your heart that despite the quirks and the ups and downs, you have a family and that is perfect! You just need to be there for her, hold her hand and guide her. The rest will eventually work out.

    Reply
  10. Joanie @ Zagleft says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:41 pm

    Kristen, your post brought tears to my eyes. I know what you are going through in some ways. Out of our five children, we had one child that needed so much more from us. He was a lot to handle and we weren’t used to his behavior since our other kids didn’t act that way. I felt responsible for his behavior and wondered what I did differently with him.

    Know that you aren’t alone. You’re a good parent and you’re doing all the right things. Making an appointment to see someone is a great step and we did the same. Know that it gets better. I speak from experience and know this to be true.

    Thank you for sharing your story.

    Reply
  11. Sherri Jo says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:41 pm

    I have one of those children too… and now as a teen he is the brightest, most level headed, industrious, compassionate and understanding people you’d ever meet. Finding that therapist, doctor or whomever to help you understand her and the way she sees the world will make a world of difference. You will move past this and she will become everything you’ve ever hoped for her and more. And one day, when she is older and can grasp the amazing Mother she has in you… she will be so thankful. Know that anything she’s dealing with isn’t about anything you did wrong or could have done differently… she’s just herself… the key now is to learn to communicate in her language. You haven’t failed her at all… you are, have been and will continue to be her champion. I know it’s a challenge and some days you will wonder if you are up for it… but you are one of the strongest women I know and you can do this.

    I am so proud of you for bringing this out in the open and in a way speaking for all of us parents who face these kinds of challenges. I hope that you know that you have a lot of us standing quietly behind you, cheering you on.

    And… that soup looks amazing. Go for the comfort. Be kind to yourself through all of this. Take time for yourself, if you aren’t there for yourself now and then… you can’t fully be there for them.

    *hugs* <3

    Reply
  12. Kelly @ Kansas City Mamas says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:46 pm

    My heart breaks for you and your family over this post. I love all of you so much…prayers my sweet, sweet friend.

    Reply
  13. Aggie says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:47 pm

    Parenting IS hard.

    Big hugs. You will figure this one out. I admire you for seeking out help & a different perspective, I think it will definitely help – and hopefully relieve some of that mom anxiety that’s hard to shake.

    Chowder? Looks awesome. Like seriously awesome.

    Reply
  14. Judy says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:48 pm

    Awwwwww. My heart hurts for you all. I have one of those. I love her with every bit of my being but…
    We have had a behaviorist work with her and it did wonders for all of us. I can promise you that with age it does improve.
    Good luck, prayers and keep us posted! Just remember you didn’t do this. You’re an incredible Mom.

    Reply
  15. Sarah W. Caron (Sarah's Cucina Bella) says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:52 pm

    Kristen, you are a wonderful mom — and yes, parenting is so, so hard. This post is a beautiful testament to how much you love her, and I have faith that you will find your way to understand her better and to help her.

    Reply
  16. JulieD says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:55 pm

    Looks so good, Kristen!

    I cannot imagine how hard this for you and your family. I know you’ll find the answer, it’s good you’re asking for help. Thinking about you!

    Reply
  17. Miss @ Miss in the Kitchen says

    January 16, 2013 at 9:04 pm

    Parenting is so hard, I often feel totally unprepared and and challenged especially with the teenagers. One of my boys has never fit in the box and it has been a struggle. You are an amazing, loving and caring parent, and that will get you and your family through until you are able to get a little more understanding. Praying for your family and wishing you all the best.

    Reply
  18. Sylvie @ Gourmande in the Kitchen says

    January 16, 2013 at 9:15 pm

    I can feel so much pain through your words, I wish I could give you a big hug right now and take some of it away. I may not have the answers you’re looking for but I’m a pretty good listener if you need one.

    Reply
  19. Katie | Healthnut Foodie says

    January 16, 2013 at 9:29 pm

    K — As always, I so appreciate your honesty! You offer me such inspiration as I aspire to follow in your footsteps on so many levels. Praying for you and your sweet family!

    Reply
  20. Annalise says

    January 16, 2013 at 9:29 pm

    Thank you for sharing with us, I’m so sorry your family is dealing with this. I hope you’ll get some answers soon for your sweet little girl. We’re all here for you! Sending a virtual hug. 🙂

    Reply
  21. linda walter says

    January 16, 2013 at 9:34 pm

    Oh darlin’. That was my middle son. He now has 6 year old twins….but schooling was so hard for him. Except he was in the 100%tile in grades…he just refused to do homework…and 5 teachers failed him…even though he was probably smarter than his teachers….he went on and got a maters degree…..but we were wondering what our son marched to a different tune…..we sent him for therapy. And he would say nothing for the whole hour….we learned we can do nothing. Period. Unless he was interested…the old story, you can lead the horse to the water,but you can,t make him drink it…….big hugs

    Reply
  22. Bissmamaof3 says

    January 16, 2013 at 9:38 pm

    I’m praying for you. One of my best friends has been going through something very similar with her daughter. They also started with a child psychologist, finally got a diagnosis, have sought treatment and are now seeing great results. From what you’ve written, the details are very similar. Please email me if you want more info. I think I can help as you wait for your appointment.

    Reply
  23. Melissa @ Baking For The Boys says

    January 16, 2013 at 9:39 pm

    I am so sorry you are going through this. Parenting is hard. I wish I had answers for you and the best I can put forth is for you to love and support her the best way possible. It seems like you are doing that. At least you recognized she needed help and you on your way to that point-some parents never accept or seek assistance. I wish you well and hope you, your daughter, your family find answers and peace soon.

    PS: I’d much rather read something real, than An Ode to Chowder. 🙂 The sun shall peak through the clouds soon and shine down on your family.

    Reply
  24. Natalie @ Cooking for My Kids says

    January 16, 2013 at 9:50 pm

    First of all, I love you. I remember when I first opened up to you about my Ethan. I remember how you said that you had tears streaming down your face. I remember thinking that I did not want you to be sad for me. I wanted you (and everyone) to see in him what I saw in him. A few months later, you met him, and you did. 🙂 I have met Ella, and I saw great things in her. She is special, and those special children often present the greatest challenges. But, they also deliver some of the greatest joy, in return. I know that you are up for this challenge because you are one of the best moms who I know.

    I am here if you need to talk. Hugs!

    Reply
  25. Pat Wogan says

    January 16, 2013 at 10:02 pm

    Dear Kristen, I, too, read this post with a tear in my eye. Our darling sweet Ella who can be so stubborn. We always need love the most when we are the least lovable. Right now, she needs lots and lots of love. She is UNIQUE and SPECIAL! I am glad you are getting some help and hope it makes her happy, too. I love you all! Give her a hug from Grandma! I always said if I were God, I would have put a soft cover instruction book to come out with every baby. They are all different. When I was pregnant with Larry, I thought, I can do this, I’ve done it before…..only problem is He sent me a different kid every time!

    Reply
  26. Katie says

    January 16, 2013 at 10:04 pm

    All these things you are feeling are completely valid and the same things that we have felt as parents with our difficult child. We are finally figuring out what our “normal” is and seeing the benefits of the thousands we spent on play therapy, feeding therapy, and child psychiatrists….and all the hours spent in those appointments. I feel like I finally know my child and am developing a great relationship with him and him with me. I hope you have a great experience through all of that and find a fabulous doctor. It has made such a difference for us having a doctor that understands our needs as parents, our child’s needs and how to find common ground between the two. I think our two passionately emotional kids are very similar in ways. If you ever need a listening ear, know that you can always call me. For many years I never had a friend that was experiencing something even remotely similar and I know that would have made a huge difference for my ability to cope if I could have talked to someone that completely understood what I was going through instead of judging my parenting skills because of my child’s “not normalness,” for lack of a better phrase. You are such a great mom, Kristen, and I know you will find a way to get through this even if it is heartbreaking now.

    Reply
  27. Greta @gfunkified says

    January 16, 2013 at 10:13 pm

    That is so hard, to feel so helpless with your own child, to not know what in the world you can do for her, and then to have to wait SO long to try to get some outside help.

    Reply
  28. Trysha says

    January 16, 2013 at 10:15 pm

    Parenting IS hard. Big Big HUGS.

    Having a kid is feels so fiercely is tough. It’s beyond being “sensitive.” Giving her a safe space to express herself and work through whatever is going on is important.

    I don’t know what I could say that everyone else has already said so much better than I have. 🙂 Hugs Hugs Hugs.

    Reply
  29. angela @ another bite please says

    January 16, 2013 at 10:42 pm

    know you are not alone…i too never thought parenting would be this hard…so full of mistakes…lessons learned and relearned..frustrations…but those moments of the sweet sweet innocence of my child and the pure love that he shows…ahhhh…how i reach and hold onto those since i know THAT is who he is. prayers.

    Reply
  30. Heidi - Bits of Sunshine says

    January 17, 2013 at 2:02 am

    She is terribly cute thou. And God has a special plan for her life. If she is in His hands – no matter what her future or problems she faces, you will both have the strength to overcome them! I think all your kids are so cute. And beautiful! It was the SWEETEST thing to see your sons instagram comment on your stir fry! My heart melted!

    Reply
  31. Aimee @ ShugarySweets says

    January 17, 2013 at 5:55 am

    God put this child in your family for a reason. She is loved deeply and surrounded by love and support by everyone. I’ll pray that she finds the help that she needs! What a well written, from the heart post. So brave!

    Reply
  32. camille says

    January 17, 2013 at 6:29 am

    Parenting may be hard but it sounds like you are doing an incredible job of it. She’s lucky to have a mother who cares as much as you and who is doing everything to try to help.

    Reply
  33. Naomi says

    January 17, 2013 at 7:42 am

    Oh K – that is just hard. You did the right thing though, loving her enough to make that appointment (and sister, loving her enough to wait until May for it!).

    It’s a good thing we don’t receive manuals with our kiddos because they’d constantly have to be updating them and adding on “service packs” or something as our kids start to find their own way, discover who they are becoming, etc.

    “Hang in there” sounds so trivial, but you know where to find me if you need to bend an ear …

    xo

    Reply
  34. Tasha @ ThatsSoYummy says

    January 17, 2013 at 7:43 am

    Oh hunny, my heart goes out to you but I know that you are strong and that no matter what is thrown your direction you will shower your daughter with love and understanding, though sometimes it is hard. Parenting is hard and sometimes there are no answers but just know that you and she are a child of God and that he does not make mistakes but makes each and everyone of us in his own image and we each have our own purpose. Sending lots of love and comfort your direction.

    Reply
  35. shelly (cookies and cups) says

    January 17, 2013 at 7:50 am

    She is yours for a reason. Because although you feel overwhelmed you have love strong enough for her that you will walk through the battle beside her, and that isn’t something that everyone can do. You inspire me.
    Miss you and wish I could could hug you right now!!

    Reply
  36. Rachel @ Baked by Rachel says

    January 17, 2013 at 8:10 am

    Parenting is hard, some days harder than others. I know I’m not saying anything you don’t already know but you’re an amazing mom and I’m positive things will all work out.

    Reply
  37. Kim | At Home With Kim says

    January 17, 2013 at 8:44 am

    It’s often said that being a mother is both the most rewarding and most difficult position a person can hold….. and it’s true. Nothing will break a heart like the pain of a child. Yet in the midst of that lies our own feelings as a mother…. sadness, love, disappointment, anger, frustration. It’s so hard to balance caring for them and dealing with the stuff raging inside of us. A book that I cannot recommend enough is Jesus Calling by Sarah Young (I actually have extra copies and would love love to send one to you if you email me your address)… It’s a daily devotional that has always spoken to me. Perhaps time in that and journaling your thoughts/prayers would help you sort this through some. Sending you hugs and praying you feel peace and guidance on how to walk this out.

    Reply
  38. Beki Cook @ BekiCooksCakes says

    January 17, 2013 at 8:48 am

    The waiting is so hard.

    I have a son who also feels every thing just that much MORE than others. He still has a kind of “wavy” diagnosis… that I assume one day will change and become more hard-and-fast, but even in getting the “sort-of” diagnosis, that was helpful.

    Getting help at school is huge. My son is in Kindergarten, and we ended up choosing a Charter school to send them to (in the Twin Cities), because they were so much more willing to give him all of the help he needs, not just the help he “qualifies for.” (It’s a huge difference!!)

    Hopefully you have some friends/neighbors/acquaintances who can help you through the process, but if you don’t, there are a lot of good groups online, and in real life, that can help you understand what the best next step is.

    Good luck. The wait feels like an eternity. I hope you can get in sooner with a cancelation. (We weaseled in a good month early at the U of M thanks to that!)

    -Beki

    Reply
  39. Kate@Diethood says

    January 17, 2013 at 8:52 am

    Oh 🙁 This sounds like my beautiful 3 year old daughter. We are dealing with almost the same issues… I can completely understand you, and my heart goes out to you. I know what you have to go through every day. It’s like walking on eggshells for us… but I think, or I pray, that you and your family, as well as us, will get through it and our daughters will grow up to be amazing, uber smart, beautiful individuals. My only advice is to keep talking to her and listening to her. Read between the lines, and listen for what is bothering her, or what excites her even.
    I did study Psychology, but never practiced it… now I wish I went ahead and got my PhD instead of changing direction in the middle of it all and getting my MBA. Who knew what the future had in store for me…
    In the meantime, could we share a bowl of this beauty?

    Reply
  40. Tam says

    January 17, 2013 at 9:10 am

    Sometimes, life just sucks! Your post brought back the many years of tears and heartache with having a loving child that just didn’t “fit” in. As you share your life with all of us I feel like I walked many of the same steps. My kids are now in their 20’s and I can tell you there are many other parents out there feeling like you! Please know you are so strong and loving, but build a group of people around you to support your choices. The waiting game is tough! Kansas City has many different places for resources. One step at a time! You can do this!

    Reply
  41. Emily {Pink Tiger in the Kitchen} says

    January 17, 2013 at 9:17 am

    Oh Kristen! For the subject of this post, it is one of the most beautifully written posts I might have ever read. It has touched my heart so deeply. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason and I think there is a reason she is your daughter. You will be able to guide her through this life and give her whatever help she may need. She is in my prayers for a happy and wonderful life!

    Reply
  42. Paula says

    January 17, 2013 at 9:19 am

    I’m sorry that you are going through this with your daughter and I’m sorry that you have to wait until May for the appointment. Whatever comes of the appointment I know that you and your family will go to the ends of the earth to help and support your precious little girl and I also know that you will find that you are doing nothing wrong and have done nothing wrong in the way that you are raising her.
    You are so right. There is no picture picture family. Everyone one of us has issues, big and small that we are dealing with. You were open and honest enough to share yours.
    I hope the professionals are able to provide you with answers to your questions and resources to help you all cope. Best wishes.

    Reply
  43. Gina says

    January 17, 2013 at 9:20 am

    Oh Kristen! I am so sorry to hear this. My heart aches to know that you are going through this challenge with. It’s not always your parenting. I always find it amazing how a family with multiple kids can have them all be so very different. I think it’s great that you recognize that there is something that needs to be addressed. She is lucky to have a mother that cares & wants to help. How many kids out there have parents that don’t even know they need something more? Hug her tight, give her support, listen intently & May will be here before you know it.

    Reply
  44. TidyMom says

    January 17, 2013 at 9:39 am

    you’re an amazing mom I know you’ll get this figured out. and i love how you share your beautiful life and family with us.

    xoxoxoxo

    Reply
  45. Shaina says

    January 17, 2013 at 9:48 am

    I think your daughter is very lucky to have you as her mom. I know so many people who struggle in silence, and your willingness to seek out and find help to make things easier for her proves how much you love her.

    p.s. I love those bowls, and would like a chowder-filled one to appear on my desk right about now.

    Reply
  46. Gaby@GabHousewifeChronicles says

    January 17, 2013 at 10:13 am

    I don’t know you on person, but I’ve been following for a while your posts, and I enjoy reading them. I know you’re a great mom, and the best thing of good mom’s is that they don’t stand back but on the contrary, they will do whatever in their power to help their children, even when their children are adults like myself. So I know everything is going to work out fine, with the challenges the Lord give us, as he knows we can handle them, learn from them and will make us grow as person and as family. I’m sure love is the answer, and your family seems to be full of it, so don’t be afraid, write to us as we listen/read, and your husband and you, as acouple, trust and support in each other on this journey. Keep your minds open in adaptation mode, as we always have to be adapting on new things in our lives, and enjoy your newest family member, the dog you adopted. I have two schnauzers and whenever I feel sad or I fear about the future, they notice and they make me feel better. Pets fullfill a big part of my heart, and they are family members too, so support on him too and you’ll see everything is going to be just fine. My best wishes on the psychologist appointment, I’m sure they will have some answers, if not all.

    Reply
  47. Crystal @ Crystal's Cozy Kitchen says

    January 17, 2013 at 11:58 am

    So I have to share this – recently I read a great book that pretty much described my son (who is active and his emotions can also change on a dime – or so it seemed) so well – it’s called, Raising Your Spirited Child (by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka). It discusses that while still ‘normal’ some children just have a bit more (more energy, feeling, etc.) It also helps with strategy to help without breaking their spirit (because we admire the qualities of spirited adults, it can just be hard to deal with them in children!) The one point that resonated with me the most is the tantrums – my son can throw a tantrum for an hour – the author says that with some children it’s the emotions that they can’t control and ignoring them doesn’t help (and sure didn’t for us. And these tantrums can be caused by cutting the sandwich in half wrong, or the way I open a banana.)

    Seriously reading that book was like a revelation about my son to me and I highly suggest reading it! I checked one out from my local library and then bought it because I needed it as a reference book!

    And you’re right, parenting is hard!

    Reply
  48. midwestmom3 says

    January 17, 2013 at 12:18 pm

    Our middle daughter’s story sounds a lot like yours. She is thirteen now and we also made the decision to look for help. She was eight at the time. She never ever acts out at school. Not many friends and only a few family members have seen her in the throes of her emotions. I wouldn’t change her for the world, but some days I would love to change my response to her. I fail her often, but am blessed to know that God has been merciful enough to me for my daughter to have a forgiving heart. We always try to begin again. My goal is to teach her to focus her energy and emotions into a positive and successful life. I am sure it will be wonderful. Just not sure what it will look like. We will hold you in our thoughts and prayers for your journey.

    Reply
  49. Carole says

    January 17, 2013 at 12:38 pm

    Hi there. Food on Friday: Corn on Carole’s Chatter is now open for entries. This looks like a good one! I do hope you link it in. This is the link . Please do pop back to check out some of the other links. Have a great week.

    Reply
  50. Stefanie @ Sarcastic Cooking says

    January 17, 2013 at 3:44 pm

    Kristen, your story touched my heart. I am not a parent yet, but I feel like the issues you are facing with your daughter are so relatable and every family faces some kind of struggle. As you stated, there is no picture perfect. I don’t know what to say to reassure you that you are doing your best. Some days are just better than others, so hold on.

    Reply
  51. Liz @ The Lemon Bowl says

    January 17, 2013 at 3:59 pm

    Thank you for being so open, honest and vulnerable in this post, Kristen. You are brave, inspirational and amazing. I know this post will help so many others who probably feel alone. I know for a fact of others dealing with practically identical issues. You are definitely not alone my friend. xoxo

    Reply
  52. Amber | Bluebonnets & Brownies says

    January 17, 2013 at 4:34 pm

    I just want to give you a hug. Thank you for trusting us enough to unburden some of this. Love ya x

    Reply
  53. Bree says

    January 17, 2013 at 11:10 pm

    Beautifully written. Parenting is so hard it’s true! It sounds like you are doing all the right things. Hang in there!

    Reply
  54. Lori @ RecipeGirl says

    January 18, 2013 at 9:54 am

    Oh Kristen, my heart hurts for you because I know how awful it feels to be worried about your little one. It’s a helpless feeling… what have we done… or what could we have done better… or why is this happening at home but not at school? It’s such a tough job raising our kids and trying to make sure they turn out to be the best kids possible. I think you did the right thing by reaching out for help (May?!) Thanks for trusting your readers to support you and give you advice. Much love and patience while you work through it. ALL of your kids are amazing, and you are an equally amazing mother.

    Reply
  55. Linda D says

    January 18, 2013 at 10:03 am

    My heart goes out to you – please know I’m praying for you & your family

    Reply
  56. Katrina @ In Katrina's Kitchen says

    January 18, 2013 at 12:26 pm

    Oh friend. My heart hurts for you. You are doing everything right for her. She knows she’s loved. She has family. And a happy life. Praying for you xoxoxo

    Reply
  57. Gerry @ Foodness Gracious says

    January 18, 2013 at 1:43 pm

    First of all, i doubt you did anything wrong! Parenting is a strange job to be fair. One day you can be the star and the next day your kid wants to kill you (actually been said) Our house today is not much fun after a major meltdown last night but it’ll turn nice again when my daughter will come home from school having forgotten about the whole fiasco. My problem is that I store the ugly times to long in my brain but kids can wipe them away in a second. Trying not to make this sound patronizing, some kids do need some extra help and that’s okay but I always cling to the fact that secretly they do know where the solid foundations are which are the mom and dad. Hang in there 🙂

    Reply
  58. Missy says

    January 18, 2013 at 4:20 pm

    Kristen,
    Like you, I have a “difficult” child. She’s now 13 and we’ve been struggling since she was 18 months old. Like you, I don’t feel like I parent her “right.” I think the most important thing is to just keep trying. Keep studying to find the things that DO work and just…keep trying. And hope to God they grow into their BIG personalities. If you ever want to talk, give me a call or e-mail 🙂

    Missy

    Reply
  59. Christie - Food Done Light says

    February 22, 2013 at 12:42 pm

    Hi Kristen, You have touched my heart today. I hope you find some answers and am so sorry you have to wait until May! Waiting is can be so hard. I wish I had some words of wisdom to send your way but I don’t. I can send you lots of good thoughts and prayers. to you and your family.

    Reply
  60. liz says

    February 22, 2013 at 1:15 pm

    Thanks for sharing with us Kristen. My son was also very emotionally charged since birth (he had colic) and never seemed to grow out of it until about age 5-6 years old. He also didn’t show any signs at school (which made us really think we were going nuts!). Now, he’s pretty calm most days and we’ve given him strategies on how to deal with his emotions and outbursts. I would cry everyday wondering what we did wrong. In the end,, you realize it’s not your fault, and you just have to learn ways in which to cope. Eventually, our kids will have the skills and coping mechanisms to deal with it appropriately. At least that what I keep telling myself! 😉

    Reply
  61. Kate | Food Babbles says

    February 22, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    My heart breaks for you and your family as I read this post. I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing this. I cannot begin to imagine your pain,, your daughter’s pain and the helplessness you must feel. My heart goes out to you and I hope that May comes quickly and you all get the help as guidance you need.

    Reply
  62. Jill Roberts @ WellnessGeeky says

    January 14, 2018 at 5:13 pm

    This is absolutely magnificent, scrumptious, delicious, super yummy creamy chicken & corn chowder. I found your post from Pinterest! I’m also gonna pin this post on my Pinterest board my followers will love it. Thanks for sharing!

    Reply

Trackbacks

  1. Cheesy Slaw Quiche Recipe for a Healthy Morning Breakfast says:
    April 22, 2013 at 10:43 pm

    […] we first discovered Ella was struggling in school, one of her teachers suggested giving her a healthy, protein packed start to her day. We had heard […]

    Reply
  2. A Healthy Start {Recipe: Cheesy Slaw Quiche} - Recipe in Depth says:
    May 8, 2013 at 8:55 am

    […] we first discovered Ella was struggling in school, one of her teachers suggested giving her a healthy, protein packed start to her day. We had heard […]

    Reply
  3. The Call for Comfort: Chicken Gnocchi Soup Recipe - Dine and Dish says:
    January 14, 2019 at 11:57 am

    […] Creamy Chicken with Corn Chowder from Dine & Dish […]

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Recipe Rating




Primary Sidebar

About Your Hostess

Kristen-125Hi friends, I'm Kristen! Mom of 4, Ambassador of Happiness, Coffee Lover and Connection Seeker. Come say hi! Read More…
Facebook    Twitter    Pinterest    RSS    Email Updates

Don’t Miss This!

Healthy Veggie Avocado Lettuce Cups Recipe

California Avocado Lettuce Cup Recipe from dineanddish.net

My Book Recommendations

4 Books I Loved Reading This Summer

4 Books I Loved Reading This Summer on dineanddish.net

Footer

food  FOOD

My love of how food connects people together runs deep. Explore a decade worth of Dine & Dish recipes, from sweets to savory as well as classic family favorites. Food lovers will want to check this out. Bon Appétit!
Crispy Chickpea Pantry Pasta with Spinach and parmesan cheese

EXPLORE FOOD

travel  TRAVEL

"I haven't been everywhere, but it's on my list." I've always had a serious case of wanderlust, and traveling and exploring new places continues to be one of my favorite things. Come explore my favorite places with me!
5 Great Ways to Maximize Your Time at Walt Disney World Parks

EXPLORE TRAVEL

life  LIFE

More than just a food blog, Dine & Dish has always been a place where I've shared what's happening in our life. These life posts tend to be my absolute favorite blog posts. Come get a taste of life as it happens in our house!
broken plant pot on the floor with dirt

EXPLORE LIFE

happiness  HAPPINESS

I believe that in order to live a happy life, you have to make happiness happen through implementing simple things that make you happy into every day. Here are a few of the things that bring me happiness - I hope they do you too.

EXPLORE HAPPINESS

Open
New ink inspired by a quote in my friend @andiemmitchell amazing memoir “It Was Me All Along”. 

I tend to be an all or nothing person and look at long term and get overwhelmed instead of just taking things one day at a time. I’ve said her quote to myself multiple times a day for years. Now I’ll have a permanent reminder. 

The full quote: “Can you do it today? Can you make it through today without bingeing? Just today, and tomorrow we’ll reconsider?”

I need to go back and get a couple missed spots filled in but I love it. Thanks Rob at @irezumitattookc 🎉

#typewriterfonttattoo #tattooinstagram #inspiringtattoos #quotetattoo #gentlereminder #wordstoinspire #wordstoremember #wordstoliveby
Open
My snow and mountain loving, free spirited, book reading, laugh inducing, amazing friend @mountainmamacooks wrote a cookbook. It’s beautiful and just so perfect! I’m sharing all about it on the blog today and I also gave her Crispy Kahlua French Toast recipe the double dip treatment.

Find the recipe and get a peek into her book over on Dine & Dish! (PS I miss you tons, Kelley!)

#apresallday #frenchtoastrecipe #brunchideas #cookbooks #mountainmama #skiingislife
Open
Here’s a fun fact I heard on the radio several years ago…October 5th is the most popular day to be born (9 months prior is New Years Eve-ish). 🎉 

Happy birthday to all my many many birthday twins out there! It’s the big 4-8 for me…although this past year as a Covid long hauler I feel like I’ve aged 20 years in the past 1. But things are looking up! I’m excited for the next 365 days of my life. I’m blessed and so thankful to still be here, chugging along.

This picture is from last week when @kellykdoyle and I were visiting colleges in Colorado. If I have any followers with ties to @coloradostateuniversity or @cuboulder I’d love to chat! 

#october5th #birthdaytwins #gardenofthegods #birthdayweek #coloradosprings
Open
I love being a parent of teens...but I miss the days of parenting kids who loved going to school, who didn't struggle with major anxiety, who loved their bodies, and were confident about how they looked. I miss pre-covid days where lunch wasn't distanced, kids had the opportunity to connect and socialize at school, where mask-wearing wasn't even a topic, let alone one that divides. 

The past 2 years have changed my kids. They have gained so many positive things, but they've also gained a new kind of anxiety that wasn't there before. And I hate it for them. They've seen first hand how long haul covid has changed our family. They've seen the selfishness of others in ways they haven't seen before. They've had to grow up faster, worry about things they shouldn't have to worry about, and learn the hard way how this world can really be. And it hurts my heart for them. 

I have a new senior, sophomore and 6th grader here at home. Missing my sophomore in college a ton. I hope the world is kind to them and they are kind to the world. I want nothing more than for them to be happy and to be surrounded by good people who love and accept them for who they are and who also push them to live a full, rich and happy life. I pray every day for them - and for your kids...and pray that we are all raising a generation of empathetic and kind changemakers.

#loveoneanother❤️ #parentingteens #momofteens #anxietyawareness #backtoschooloutfit #changemakers #parenthood_moments
Open
These two small business owners had a successful launch day for their new clothing and accessory brand, @impatient.us I’m so proud of my daughter @kellykdoyle & daughter from another mother, @kyleemdunn for making the time and financial commitment to launch their dream brand! They’ve done it all so independently and have navigated starting a small business way better than I could have at 17! Thanks to everyone who sent words of encouragement and showered them with support. It’s means so much! 

Follow their journey at @impatient.us and shop the link in their profile!

#smallbusinesslaunch #clothingbrands #teenentrepreneur #launchday #launchparty #teenbusiness #shopsmallbusinesses #proudmoment
Open
I was a “houseplant lady” before the pandemic, but I think since the pandemic I get to add the word “crazy” to that title. So. Many. Plants. I’m not mad about it!

This weekend @kctinygreenhouse I picked up this beautiful Monstera Peru as well as a bag of Jeff’s Jungle Mix. You know when a new to you potting mix has you super excited, you’ve crossed the line into la la land 😂 Swipe to see how pretty it is!

What pandemic hobby did you pick up?

#plantmomlife #crazyplantpeople #houseplantlove #monsteraperu #pottingmix #plantobsession #plantcollectors #plantsmakepeoplehappy
Open
Yesterday we spent a few hours down in the West Bottoms visiting the grand opening of @kctinygreenhouse newest location . KC Plant fam, head there. Just trust me! Plants loved and cared for with the best good vibes, all ready to join your crazy plant person home. You’ll find goodies from local KC artisans as well, like @pigeoncandles 

Come for the plants, leave with a heart full of happy!

#westbottoms #tinygreenhouse #plantfamily #pandemicprojects #shoplocalkc #happyplants #plantvibes #summerofyes
Open
Last night in the suite @kcroyals ...I almost cried. Man it feels so good to be doing normal things. I’ll never take this for granted! Making this the summer of yes...I’m going to say yes to as many events/outings/opportunities as possible! Who’s in? #summerofyes
Open
Ella is 15 today! Those of you who have been with Dine & Dish since the very beginning have been a part of Ella’s life since the start too! 15 years sure does go by in a flash, both with businesses and babies.
Happy birthday @ella.r.doyle 💕💕💕 We love you!
Open
I want to live in the big city, yet also want to live in the country. I want to live by the beach, yet also want to live in the mountains. I either need multiple lives or multiple homes! 

#farmlifeisthebestlife #chickensofig #barnlife #iwantitall #hensofinstagram #citygirlcountrygirl
Open
I’m officially one step closer to reaching peak plant lady status! 🪴

I’m welcoming these plant cuttings from the Hello Kathy Plant Etsy Shop to my already booming collection. When I saw people rave about her “Mystery Box” of plant cuttings I knew I had to buy one. 2 things I love...mystery boxes and plants!

Now I need to figure out how to keep them alive. Any advice? 😃 🪴

#plantladyisthenewcatlady #plantladylife #plantcuttings #newplants #etsyshopping #shopsmallbusinesses #plantloversofinstagram
Open
Hi, friend! I Thought I’d just say “hey” and check in and add some pretty flowers to your feed.

We’re over here dragging ourselves across the school finish line...so close to done physically, but over done, mentally. Can you relate?

My coaching business is going great, I’m working with some truly incredible, inspiring women right now which makes me so happy! I’ll be launching 2 new group coaching  classes (for women and entrepreneurs) in a few weeks so be sure to follow @rockyourhappy if you are interested in being updated on those!

Jacob comes home from college this week and my parents are coming to visit for a couple of weeks as well. And it’s almost my favorite time of the year, summer!! 

How are things going with you? What’s going good and making you happy? Or what do you need a hand or listening ear with? Touch base! I’ve missed you!

#pinkflowers🌸 #happyday💕 #touchingbase #spreadhappiness #thursdaytherapy #lifecoachforwomen #springflowersmakemehappy
Open
Book Lovers Giveaway (read to the end)!!! ⬇️ ⬇️ 

Supporting my local independent bookstore @rainydaybooks looks a lot different than it used to these days. Temporarily gone are the days of lingering in store, browsing the shelves, walking out with an armful of books I didn’t expect to buy. The pandemic has made independent bookstores pivot in ways they’ve never had to before, but I’m so happy to say they are CRUSHING IT! And as we virtually celebrate Independent Bookstore Day on 4/24, I wanted to share a way you too can help keep Independent bookstores afloat now (and in the future).

You know I’m a huge fan of @librofm , the absolute best audiobook alternative that gives money back to the independent bookstore of your choice with your audiobook purchases. Well, to celebrate Independent Bookstore Day on 4/24, they are giving YOU a free audiobook! Here’s what you need to do…

Spend $15 or more at your bookstore between April 24th and 26th. Submit your receipt at libro.fm/ibd and Libro.fm will email you a link to your free audiobook by April 28th! Easy peasy, right?

Wait! There’s more! 🌟 I’d love to give one Dine & Dish follower the chance to win a 3 month @Librofm audiobook membership. To enter, simply tag your favorite independent bookstore here and tell me what you love the most about it! That’s it! Winner will be chosen at random on April 27th. Yay, books!

#indiebookstoreday #indiebookstore #bookstoreshoutout 
#booksbooksandmorebooks #bookgiveaway #audiobook #librofm #independentbookstore @indiebookstoreday
Open
Can’t believe we’re doing the college tour thing already with my second baby! 

So question for any of you who sent your kids to out of state schools or went to out of state schools...how did you do it? She wants to get the heck out of Kansas (I’d like to go with her!). We have money saved, she’ll most likely get a scholarship or two, she’s paying and has money saved as well...but even with that out of state tuition is a beast of an amount. So, did you just assume that student loans were going to be part of that life? And is that worth it to give your kids a shot at a new life outside of your home state? I wish I would have left Kansas for university, and have been here since I was born 😩. I want different for her if that’s what she wants but also just don’t have any experience with how people do out of state college! Any tips?

#collegetour #bestlifenow #outofstate #studentloans #junioryear #kansasstate #adviceneeded
Open
J is for...jam!
.
My friend @wakschmale makes the best strawberry jam...and I completely forgot about a jar she gave me last year until this morning. Which then inspired me to make my favorite buttermilk biscuits. So so good. Are you a jam, honey, just butter or plain biscuit fan? I love biscuits allll the ways, except with gravy. I have super bad memories of biscuits and gravy growing up. 🤢
.
I’m still slowly making my way through the alphabet for @kimklassen_innercircle a-z photo challenge. I’m bound and determined to finish. It may just take me a little longer than I originally anticipated 🤗.
.
.
#homemadejam #eatcaptureshare #biscuitsandjam #homemadebiscuits #sundaybaking #easylikesundaymorning #foodphotograph #foodpics #slowsunday #breakfastathome #kimklassen_innercircle
Open
It took me 2 months to get this Crispy Chickpea Pantry Pasta recipe up on the blog. 🤦‍♀️But it’s there now! You can find the link in my Instagram profile.
.
Also, just noticed Instagram took away the like count on posts. I kind of like that...what do you think?
.
.
.
#pastarecipe #chickpeapasta #dinnerideas #dinnerrecipes #vegetarianrecipe #eatcaptureshare #slowblogging  #totallifechanges
Open
I is for Inspiration!
.
The “long haul” effects of having Covid back in December are really presenting themselves lately. The continuous persistent headaches are taking a toll and the connection between the brain fog and word retrieval function of my brain has been extra challenging. I had no idea a couple months out, the cognitive effects would still be hanging around.
.
With that said, when I get a burst of inspiration I’m grabbing on for dear life. I made our favorite chocolate chip cookies recipe yesterday and felt the desire to update the blog post photos from 2007! We make these cookies all the time, so I’m not sure why it’s taken me so many years to give that poor post some new photos.
.
If you’re interested in the recipe you can find the link currently in my profile. Enjoy!!
.
.
.
@kimklassen_innercircle #kimklassen_innercircle #chocolatechipcookie #cookiestagram #foodphotography #feedfeedbaking #plateofcookies #cookiephotography #eatcaptureshare #recipeoftheweek
Open
H is for...high!
.
It was so strange being on a plane again. I’m so thankful I have the antibodies because the flights were full, which seemed wrong, but everyone around me did seem to keep their masks on, so that was good.
.
I can’t wait until travel becomes a regular part of life again. I’ve missed it so much!
.
.
 @kimklassen_innercircle @southwestair @windowswap #cloudphotography #cloudsofinstagram #flightview #iflyswa #imisstravelling #skylove #planepics #myviewtoday #beautifulviews
Open
G is for...oh so grateful!

I flew to South Texas yesterday to visit my parents whom I haven’t seen in 2 years. They live around 17 hours away from us. We typical get to see each other a few times a year but with the pandemic and other health issues it just wasn’t able to happen and I’ve missed them soooo much.

Grateful to have had COVID last month. Although it was not at all fun, it gave me the antibodies to make this trip possible. My dad is having surgery tomorrow so I’m helping with my mom so my dad can recover without having to worry about her.

Kansas is enjoying frigid temperatures and snow. I picked a great week to head south.
.
.
#palmtrees🌴 #palmtreesfordays #blueskiesandsunshine #wintersun #texasskies #kimklassen_innercircle @kimklassen_innercircle #silverlining
Open
F is for...food photography.
.
This time of year especially, food photography (and I guess all photography actually) is a tug of war with time and light. I had planned on making and photographing a delicious pasta recipe, but my grocery delivery ran a couple of hours late because of snowstorm. So, at the eleventh hour I decided to make a cake...that took over an hour to bake and I had about 90 minutes of natural light left...leaving me with about 30 minutes of ok light to work with.
.
Anyway, this wouldn't work for a client shoot because the cake, although delicious, didn't turn out looking so great. But it will work great for today's F photo for the @kimklassen_innercircle A-Z photo project:) Lemon Citrus Yogurt Cake from this weeks @cabotcheese newsletter. So good!
.
.
#eatcake #eatcaptureshare #eatcakebehappy #lemoncake #cakecakecakecake #foodiegram #yahoofood #dessertsofinstagram #sweettooth #kimklassen_innercircle #fisforfood
Follow on Instagram
For our site policies, click here.

Copyright © 2006-2022 Dine and Dish | design by Feast Design Co | Wordpress VPS